Childhood Trauma Copy
Time for school – lots of changes! Teachers, the new parent figure, can grow or diminish the seeds of shame, or foundation of growth, that are deeply planted in each child. A teacher can be “having a bad” day, give you a “perceived” dirty look and the shame is intensified: “some is wrong with me.” Also, a teacher can be highly critical: “You are not doing this right”: “some is wrong with me-I’ll never do it right”
Unfortunately for many children much deeper, painful trauma occurs in the form of mental/emotional abuse, physical abuse and sexual abuse. These experiences of extreme trauma are usually perpetrated by “authority figures” – parent, relative, friend of family, youth leader, scout master, teacher, preacher and a variety of different types of bullies who are “dumping their shame” on to a helpless child. It is a vicious cycle.
Children as so traumatized by these “deeper experiences” that they push the incident into their unconscious mind as a way to survive physically and emotionally. Also, the child still wants to be loved and often their “definition of love’ is tied to abuse. AND, the bottom line is always: “Something is wrong with me – It’s my fault – I am flawed – I am shame.”