Transforming Trauma 2 Evaluation Copy

Shame Contracts Copy

A review of shame contracts: 

Cloning –  “I’ll be just like you or opposite of you.”
Approval – “I’ll do anything to get your approval.”
Abandonment –  “I’ll take care of you…just don’t leave me.”
Survival – “I’ll be what you want me to be.”
Perfection –  “I’ll be perfect… so you will love me.”
Surrender – “You can have my life.”
Abuse –  “O.K., if I’m so bad, I’ll show you how bad I am.”

You are living your shame contract(s) with a negative self–image and false definitions of love.  Let’s stop the abuser, break another contract, continue healing…..